Rejection Is a Myth

If you don’t ask you will not receive. Yet you will not ask because you are afraid of rejection. I am here to tell you that rejection is a myth. It’s a fantasy and it’s emotional. You feel rejected when you don’t get the date, are picked for the basketball team, lose out on the promotion, or don’t make the sale.

You didn’t get the part in the play, get into the college you wanted, or that pretty person over there said no. I will say it again rejection is a myth. It doesn’t exist. It’s a concept that you hold in your head.

The Myth

Think about it. If you ask me to dinner and I say no… what did you really lose? Before you asked me I wasn’t having dinner with you and after you asked me, I am still not having dinner with you. What did you lose? Nothing! Your situation did not get worse did it? Whether you asked or not you still aren’t having dinner with me. Get it?

The situation only gets worse by the way you respond to my answer. Adding negative thoughts, feelings, and words to your perceived rejections makes it worse. If you are a real estate agent and you ask for the listing and the answer is no. Did you have the listing in the first place? No! You are still in the same position. You don’t have the listing. Nothing has changed. It’s up to you to go ask for more listings. Sulking in your office will not get you more business.